My family members (myself included) are not good at asking for help…we tend to be a pretty independent, ‘I’ll do it myself’ group of folks. I think God appreciates our sense of personal responsibility, but He certainly did not design us to figure out everything on our own. We need trusted people who can come alongside us with discernment and insight.
I have watched my wife, Christina, invite counselors and mentors into her life at different times to guide her in her journey as a woman, a wife, and a mother. Sometimes we need a mature person outside of ourselves to explore “the deep waters” of our hearts while offering wisdom and compassion. Christina would tell you that seeking counsel and help is not a sign of weakness but, in fact, a sign of strength. Find someone who is mature in their faith and deeply in love with Jesus. Ask questions. Listen to them.
As Proverbs 11:14 (MSG) tells us, “Without good direction, people lose their way: the more wise counsel you follow, the better your chances.”